The Love Adventure

Hello everyone,

It's the month of " LOVE". Whilst I thought of what to share with you guys, I accidentally stumbled on this picture of mine. Interesting right, looking really young. I think that was like 4 years ago, when I traveled to Germany. I stayed with a wonderful family at Aachen, west of Germany. So one of the weekends, they decided to take me out on a tour to Cologne. Cologne is the 4th largest city in Germany. It was about 3hrs drive from Aachen. I had the opportunity to see many historic places. But one of the things that caught my attention was the famous "Love Padlock" view on Hohenzollernbruke bridge.

The wall of “Love Padlocks” on display on the Hohenzollernbrücke bridge in Cologne, Germany has been like a tradition which started about 10years ago. It has attracted endless stream of couples who visit each year to either publicly honor their love or reaffirm their love for each other. Its interesting to note that about 40,000 padlocks now hang from the railings of the bridge, each inscribed, painted, or decorated by the couples that hung it.

That means 40,000 couples – 80,000 individuals in all – have participated in this fast-growing, spontaneous tradition. It was quite an enchanting site to watch happy couples, hopelessly enthralled by their own affection; mark their padlocks with a love seal and write their names boldly on it, symbolizing the strength of their love and oneness till death do them part.

As I watched closely whilst having fun and taking pictures, freezing under my jacket. I noticed that the keys to the padlock was dropped at the edge of the bridge as they watched it tumble below the waters of river Rhine. River Rhine is the second longest river in the central and western part of Europe after River Danube.

A nice array of an impressive collection of padlocks. Its a tradition now practiced in places like Paris, Edinburgh and parts of the world.

One of the things that come to mind, is the extent people go through to solidify and consolidate their love. The memories they create and the traditions that last a life time and even passed on from generation to generation.

This reminds me of the love of God. His wonderful redemption plan for us and how much He is willing to do to ensure that we keep our love relationship with Him alive and blooming.

The love of God is real. It is dynamic. He doesn't abandon us no matter how many times we hurt Him. He still believes our love relationship with Him would work. He never gives up on us or denies us of Himself and the great treasures He has for us. No matter how much we cheat (let other things compete with our love for God) on Him. He doesn't give up on us. He sure doesn't love us for what He would get from us, but rather He is ever willing to give us all of Himself. His love is unconditional and knows no end (eternal).

It is genuine and authentic, not seasonal. He cannot break our hearts but rather always in the business of mending ours or preventing it from being broken. His love is real,unfailing and sure. He is ever faithful and keeps His word to the end. The scripture reminds us of the greatest commandment that is " To love the Lord our God with all our heart, soul, mind and body". It is in the fulfillment of this law that our love for God can be sealed.

LORD HELP US TO LOVE YOU MORE BY DOING YOUR WILL AND PLEASING YOU.

To all the couples out there. Loving your spouse the way God wants you to, is crucial in building a happy home.

Love to share a few tips to the ladies (married) out there:

5 CREATIVE WAYS TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND

1. Love letters:

You may wonder what to write or how to start.? You don't need to be too creative to write one. You just need to be yourself and be sincere. You can use a colored paper (scented) or writing pad with a manly feel ( mountains or cars ) and a sharpie pen to give it a different feel. Write what you admire or appreciate about him. What makes you proud to be his wife. Just be creative in your own way, be intentional and sincere.

If you feel is tiresome, you can get a nice appreciation card and pen down your heart to him. He would sure appreciate and treasure it.

2. Spoken words of love and appreciation:

Every man needs this spoken word. They might not show it, but they want to hear you tell them that you appreciate the effort they put in: for you, the kids and family. This is reassuring to them and it makes them know that their hard work, sacrifice and dedication does not go unnoticed. Look for ways to appreciate him on a daily basis. E.g If he fixes the light, does the laundry or takes the kids to school. Don't take it for granted. Tell him you appreciate it.

3. Touch of affection:

As women desire affection and to be touched. Men also want to feel close to their wives. Here a few ways you can accomplish that. Look for appropriate opportunities to touch your husband – maybe on the arm, back of his neck while you’re relaxing; hold his hand, lay your head on his shoulder or hug him when he gets back from work. You can also place some pecks before he leaves for work in the morning. Touch your feet to his feet under the covers. It’s important for him to know that you’re thinking about him.

Don’t hesitate reaching out and letting him know how much you love him.

It’s crazy what just a moment of touch can trigger and how quickly it can change the mood of your husband.

4. Surprise Gifts:

Some men love surprises. Nobody wants to live with a woman who is boring. They do love adventures I can tell you for sure ( speaking and learning from married men) . What does your husband like? Find out what he loves. You could surprise him with his favorite meal. Take him out for a date night to his favorite restaurant or it could be an experience he's been talking about.

Get into your husband’s world, and figure out something creative to show that you love, care and have been listening to him. Plan something memorable and within your budget for him. Sometimes its not just about the gift, but the memories you create within the adventure.

5. Sex:

I cant skip this part or overemphasize it. Its weird to know but Myles Munroe said: "A man needs "GOD" to live, but a male needs "SEX" to survive". Showing your husband that you love him by how much you want him makes him feel like he’s on top of the world. Whether it’s spontaneous, planned out, or a little afternoon delight. It’s OK to build up some anticipation – he will love it. Be creative and take initiative. You can start by texting him all day, leave some hints before leaving for work in his private car or sending a box of chocolate or what he would appreciate to his office.

Most importantly, sex is spiritual as well as physical. You must be ready and willing to give your all to satisfy him and be there when he needs you. You must understand that a woman was made for a man and men are givers , whilst women are recipients of the blessing that comes with intimacy.

Overall, the bible talks about how love must be sincere (Romans 12:9). All of these acts of love can only be sincerely practiced when our love for God is blooming. Jesus indeed is our first lover and our first husband. When you get it right with Him and you ask Him to teach you how to love your husband better and deeper. He would show you the secrets to the heart of your husband and how to win him forever.

Book Recommendation: Romancing your Husband by Debra White Smith.

Hope you had a great time reading and learning something new. Do share with me your taught. Would love to hear from the men as well.

How do you want us (women) to express our love ?

Thank you all.